Free Sex Nations?

Is Bangladesh, with 90% Muslims, better than the so‑called free‑sex countries?

Bangu male believers think — and even some women — that the Western world means free sex, that everyone there just keeps having sex like in paradise, and since they will burn in hellfire forever after death, they take their paradise‑style sex in this world.

The believing brothers think Western women roam around only to have sex, that they have no other work. If any Bangu believer gets off a plane and starts walking down the street, two or four women will grab him and take him straight to bed. But the fact is, Western women wouldn’t want Bangu believers anywhere near their three‑mile radius, let alone their bed. They don’t have such bad taste, nor do they have that kind of time. If Bangu believers had to work as hard as Westerners to earn their food, all these Islamic ghostly thoughts would go straight into their backside. It’s not so easy to get close to Western women, believing brothers! When it’s time to marry, Bangus return to Banguland anyway; they never get Western women’s closeness in their lifetime.

One day I saw a woman I know smashing her boyfriend’s windshield and side glass with a plastic crate around 11 at night. I asked, what happened? She said her boyfriend cheated on her, mentioned his name, and told us not to help him. She caused almost 200,000 taka worth of damage, maybe just because her boyfriend chatted with another woman or something like that. In those countries, when people are in a relationship, usually one stays loyal to the other. It’s not that some aren’t promiscuous. But even with boyfriend–girlfriend relationships, both get half the total property, so relationships aren’t something you can just jump into. Women aren’t that cheap; they let men come close only after seeing many qualities. That’s the reality. There are exceptions, but they aren’t the norm.

So what’s the difference? The difference is, who sleeps with whom, who spends the night with whom — nobody else cares. Whether two people — boy‑girl, boy‑boy, or girl‑girl — are spending the night in the next apartment, nobody thinks about it. Who held whose hand is their personal matter. Believing brothers call this free or open sex. But I challenge you: the amount of cheating‑based sexual activity that happens every day in Bangladesh’s open spaces like Chandrima Udyan, Ramna Park, Suhrawardy Udyan, Shyamoli and various residential hotels — you will never find anything like that in any public spot in the Western world.

This park you see in the video — I used to walk here sometimes, an 11‑kilometer round trail, and I would finish the whole thing. The clear water you see is a pure water reservoir. In the evening or at night, nobody goes behind bushes or on the road to engage in primitive acts; even during the day nobody kisses or makes out. Because to them those things are indoor activities, not outdoor. Yet in Dhaka, the amount of cheating‑based relationships and physical exchanges that happen in Shyamoli, Moghbazar, Mohakhali’s residential hotel areas — you’ll find them if you just roam for a day. I used to go out at night with a police officer friend to see night‑time Dhaka; I saw how many acts were happening behind cloth curtains, men standing in line waiting to go in one after another. In Chandrima Udyan I saw how many believing brothers were finishing their work right beside trees!

In Bangladesh’s universities, colleges, schools, madrasas, government offices, private offices, police, army — everywhere — women, especially those in lower positions, have to work under the sharp blade of the sword. Very few working women haven’t received at least one or multiple offers to sleep with colleagues, bosses, or owners. Many bosses or owners tempt first, then force if it doesn’t work. Many women avoid technically; some accept to save their job and livelihood; others voluntarily join this nexus for higher salary, more benefits, expensive gifts, promotions, or more power. If they refuse, they face harassment at every step, even termination or legal trouble. A few days ago, a free‑thinking female Facebook friend told me about her horrible experience in her private job. In Bangladesh’s political circles too, almost all leaders are women‑hungry. Do such woman‑hungry, personality‑less, coercive patriarchy exist in developed countries? Yet you proudly call Banguland 90% believer‑land and criticize Western countries! In a country where a large number of sexually frustrated men constantly show dangerous nymphomaniac behavior, you’re proud of that culture! Westerners are supposedly bad!

If you count the molestation or rape of madrasa children, the flood of statistics would surpass all Western countries’ sexual crimes combined. You curse the Western world so much — at least learn the reality there. Many believers say incest is more common in the Western world. But research and data show incest is actually more common in Islamic countries, and Islam even permits it; I have an article about this.

On the other hand, Islam has created a system where sexual access for men is wide open. Any age of girl, even a child, can be married; four wives can be kept at once; divorce and refill the quota anytime. There is temporary marriage like muta, where you can marry in the morning and end it by afternoon. After death there are 72 houris and thousands of youthful servants. In both worlds, men only gain and gain.

There is also jihad al‑nikah to boost jihadists’ morale — a temporary marriage where an extremist woman can marry multiple jihadists one after another. For people like Mamunul Haque and Nazrul Islam Hujur, there is another travel‑time marriage called nikah al‑misyar. Extremist jihadists use it. This marriage has no long‑term contract or demands. Its purpose is to satisfy the man’s faith‑rod hunger during travel.

You can marry an adopted daughter, marry a daughter‑in‑law after divorce, marry almost any relative from first cousin onward. Marriage itself is very simple — just two people and witnesses. No other ideology offers such easy and broad opportunities.

There’s more: if someone is caught taking another man’s wife or daughter to a hotel or resort, he can instantly or shortly after declare her his wife. Later if people pressure him, he can give a challenge of oath — if he is lying, Allah will punish him instantly. But believing servants can rest assured, Allah won’t punish them. Mamunul Haque, after being caught at a resort with Jharna while massaging his faith‑rod, gave this “mubahala” (مباهلة) challenge.

After all these benefits and blessings, if someone denies any Islamic blessing, then he is actually denying Allah! After giving men so many opportunities, people like us who find faults in Islam are actually cursed by Allah; Allah has stopped giving us guidance. What can we do — we roam around beautiful places at home and abroad, and after death Muhammad’s Allah will burn us in hellfire!